What are the ingredients for wellness? If you knew, you wouldn’t be here, and I wouldn’t have a job. Bummer for both of us. For nutrition and physical wellness you have the food pyramid, for mental wellness there’s Maslow’s hierarchy. 
A first step is to acknowledge wherever you are on the hierarchy with gratitude, as you are able. This is your origin. It may not seem like much, it may be quite far from where you want to be, yet it is a starting point, your starting point. In large part you determine how high you climb! Ready?
Once you have secured the first two tiers (physiological and safety needs), you arrive at social needs. There’s a layered relationship between social needs (third tier) and esteem needs (fourth tier). There isn’t one correct approach, and it’s hard to meet the needs of one tier without addressing the needs of the other. To mix things up, I might actually start at esteem needs and step down a little later.
While self-esteem is most sustainable when it comes from within, it doesn’t exist in a vacuum. The values that shape our behaviors, and how we feel about ourselves, are internalized via family, religion, educational and professional organizations, media, and almost any other cultural institution in existence. We filter in the values that are of importance to us (power, intelligence, patience, empathy, creativity, introspection, etc.) and use them to guide our self-regard, or self-esteem. Knowing the personal importance of various values is a good first step; calibrating them between challenge and competency can be a lifelong process. In other words, self-esteem often flourishes at the intersection of “I am comfortable with and gentle with myself” and “I rise to the challenge of further development of this value and myself.”
I chose to address the fourth tier before the third because a strong sense of self is the foundation to fulfilling relationships. Once values have been established, we can both seek out people who share these values for a sense of belonging and mutuality and seek out those with differing values to challenge and enrich the ways we find meaning in the world. This balance between flexibility and affinity negotiates the closeness we feel with each other, a secure base from which we can explore new relationships, new value sets. This flows naturally into the fifth and final tier, mastery, in which we share what we’ve learned and been challenged by with our communities as mentors.
I encourage you to check out the full article by Dr. Neel Burton for Psychology Today:
https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_detail.php?profid=319923
https://www.goodtherapy.org/therapists/profile/james-chadwick-20171005
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